Anna is an adolescent in love with a boy that is 3 yrs older than her. He is pressuring her for sex. At the same time, her mother is constantly warning her about datiin an older boy What advice would you give an adolescent girl that is being pressured to have sex by her boyfriend?
tell anna to tell him to f*** off!!
yo, you have to tell her to not do it! you dont know how many times i regretted having sex at age 12! girl seriously, tell her to not do it! yes, her mom knows why she is telling her this....i dated a 16 year old, and i was 12, and my mom was like, don't date him and all that crap, but i still kept dating him, and it happened! girl you seriuosly got to tell her not to do it!! What advice would you give an adolescent girl that is being pressured to have sex by her boyfriend?
First, Anna needs to ask herself how well she knows this boy. If this is the only thing he's being insensitive about, then she should try sitting down and talking to her boyfriend. If he's not sensitive about her feelings on other topics, then she should definitely reconsider her relationship with him. And she should talk to her mother, either way. Sometimes, when you're young, its hard to talk to your parents about things like sex, especially when they're already telling you you're dating the wrong person, but in this case, I think its important. Anna needs to be patient with her mother, its a hard topic, and hopefully her mother will be considerate and patient with her.
I wouldn't keep warning her because that will probably make her want to do it, just to despite the mom. Have her talk to an older sister, aunt or just an older woman that she is really close with her to talk to her about the dangers. If it comes from her mom its one thing, but hearing it from someone she doesn't see as trying to ruin her fun, it will mean more.
Pain is a great way to deter someone. Next time he tries, kick him with sharp toed shoes.
If he is all into the sex thing then he is not into her and he is not worth it.
Two little kids are playing ';show me yours Ill show you mine';
The little boy goes first. ';Im better than you are because I have one of these (pointing to his boy parts)
The little girl goes next. ';Im better than you are because with one of these (pointing to her girl parts) I can get as many of those any time I want them.
make sure to tell her that she'll have plenty of time for that kind of stuff later in life and that the circumstances are always different when a girl is dating an older guy. he might have more experience in this subject, when anna doesn't know anything, and shouldn't do something at her age. even if he is older, should HE really be doing the things hes doing at HIS age. if she agrees, they could both get into trouble. tell her she could get pregnant and how that could ruin her LIFE! she might have to drop out of highschool or college and not be able to support her family. good luck and tell her to say NOOOO
That's way to old for an adolescent, You could have problems in this kind of relationship!! And I am not joking, I am dead serious!! Yeah he's pushing for sex and he has no right trying to sleep with a young teen. Bet ya anything, if you get pregnant, this guy is going to split
REAL FAST!! This guy is just getting off on trying to get a young female in bed. This guy has no respect,and I don;t care what he says, this guy just wants you in the sack, and believe me I just know
what this guy is thinking.
Be Good To Yourself,
God Bless,
Peace,
Emma
I would ask her if he deserves her virginity. Does she value herself so little? If he's pressuring her, he obviously does not love her, and she's lying to herself if she says he does.
If that didn't work, I'd ask her if she's feeling prepared for stuff like: carrying a baby for 9 months, being financially ready to support a child, getting up several times a night for about a year or two, etc.
Or maybe I'd show her pictures online of different sexually transmitted diseases.....let her pick the one she hopes to get.
OR we could talk about how people in general feel about sluts. Whether she feels like a slut or not, that is going to be her reputation once she puts out. There's NO WAY that boy is going to keep quiet.
Do not have sex just because he is pressuring you, if he really loved you he would wait, im guessing you are to young for this it wouldent be right and you will end up regretting it, your mother is looking out for you take her advice you should be concentrating on school not guys who are stressing you find some one who is willing to wait untill your old enough.
Don't do anything that you don't want to do. So I would tell, ';Anna';, to do what is best for her. If she is with someone who can't respect that, then he's definitely not what she wants to waste her time on. Chances are if he's pressuring her for sex, then that's probably all he wants. He probably thinks that she's young and stupid so he can manipulate her. I would tell him to f--k off.
some one needs to explain to her that boys and girls are extremely different. explain to her why boys want sex and how it makes them feel, and then explain to her why girls want sex and how it makes them feel.
she needs to know that boys dont have sex because they are in love, they have sex because it makes their penis feel good.
ask her why she wants to have sex,
ask her if it is really for herself? it should be
ask her if she thinks she is ready?
if she says she is why does she think that?
adolcent girls wont listen if you tell them what is right and wrong, you need to ask her what she thinks is right and wrong, and then ask her why she thinks those things
she needs to understand the consequences of her actions.
Any guy that pressures a girl for sex doesn't care about what's good for her. All he wants is the sex, nothing more. If he was at all a caring man...and I use the term loosely, he would be willing to wait until his girl was ready and not rush her. Sensitivity must not be his strong suit. Depending on how old Anna is, it might be worth it to go online to research teen pregnancy and VD. The guy that she's with I have a feeling has been with other girls before. She needs to know all the consequences of sex. I hope she wait's until she is emotionally ready for such a big step, in fact, I hope she waits until she's in a relationship with a mature ';man';. Hope this helps....
If she is being ';pressured'; then that is your answer.
Pressured is doing something against your will.
Anna, leave your boyfriend, if he is pressuring you then don't stay with him, you'll regret it.
I know its an old line but it still applies to today's society.
Be with someone who appreciates you and your values. Someone who is willing to wait.
start with the just say no stuff but the truth is that more often than not girls are gonna do it with a guy that pressures, my friend did and i just told her to be careful you know, no sex without safe sex. tell her that she's worth more also on the occasion works, and make sure to slap some sense into the guy let him have it
tell him to stop pressuring u. and if he continues then break up with him. that isn't healthy and if ur not ready and he can't respect that then he's not worth your time. doesn't matter how cute he is or how nice he seemed in the beginning. he's showing u his true colors and it will only eat away at ur self esteem if u give urself away to a jerk.
she should tell someone, not her parents, but someone she feels comfortable talking about that kind of stuff with. someone that probably knows her better and know what's the right thing to do in this situation--be it telling the guy to piss off, or telling him that she isn't ready for that and if that's not ok for him too bad.
to me it seems like thats all he wants from her and he can't wait until she is ready if he really loved and cared for her then I would think he would understand about her decision and not pressure which is wrong....she should dump him and move on to someone better even if its goin to be hard I don't think she wants to date him if he only wants sex
I am not sure what your relationship is to her- a friend? and older friend? just listen to her and support- sounds like that is what she needs- be honest with her about consequences- in the end she will do what she wants but you can help inform her of the pros and cons
Her mother is right, she should value herself more than that and tell this guy no, do not allow someone to pressure you into sex and also,if this guys really cares he wouldn't be pressuring her. I have a vicious Chi/Jack Russell mix that she can borrow.
I would tell the girl that the boy is not worth it. She shouldn't be dating a boy that is pressuring her to do things that she doesn't want to do. If he really did love her, he would understand she doesn't feel ready to have sex and wouldn't pressure her.
Trust me, this works, I used to tell my ex boyfriend this all the time. Whenever he'd pressure me into sex, I'd just tell him I'm on my monthly cycle since boys don't really understand that part of girls well, and then he wouldn't do anything.
No one should be pressured into sex much less an adolescent girl..She should respect herself and her body and if she is not at an age or mindset of being ready than the answer is no! and if this guy still doesn't listen...THEN SEE you later...bye..cuz obviously then all he wants from her is sex and doesn't care about her.
I would ask her, hypothetically, if her best friend, sister, or maybe future daughter would be going through a similar situation; what advice would she give them?
That's a good way for her to see the situation a bit more objectively.
Don't give in. Sex should be special and shared between two people that love each other and feel comfortable with one another. You should not do anything because he wants you too. You need to be ready and he needs to respect that if not dump his ***.
you say she loves him, but if he loved her he wouldn't be pressuring her into doing something so important before shes ready. she should tell him shes not ready yet and if he keeps pestering her, she needs to tell him if he doesn't stop she'll break up with him. then she needs to FOLLOW THROUGH.
well how long have they been dating?....if he loves her he would respect her decision...however, the legal age to have sex is 17 years old...its really up to her...if she wants to wait she should tell him that...but if she wants to do it than nothing will stop her...she just beter use protection!
Don't. it's best to wait till' your married to that special someone. tell him no and that you can find someone who won't pressure you. Sex doesn't make you feel more loved unless your merried. you just feel used. and what about when he dumps you?
i would have to tell ';anna'; not to do anything she is going to regret in the future... anna also needs to keep in mind that she is going to be pressured her whole life.. and that its u to her to make the rite decision
tell her NOT to do it. if the only thing he wants to do with her is f u c k, then i say f u ck him...tell her to dump that guy. i doubt she has real feelings for him--considering she's an adolescent and he's 3 years older than her
dump him. nobody should be pressured into doing anything they don't want to do. no means no and he should know that. and he doesn't need to try to take advantage of her. he either needs to quit pressuring her or she needs to leave him
that boys not worht it.
the risk of std's and pregnancy is insane.
and so not worth it.
that girl needs to talk to a pregnant lady and ';babysit'; a really small baby.
she won't want sex anymore.
trust me.
If he really loves you (or cares about you) he will respect you and wait. You have to question whether he is being your boyfriend because he wants to be with you or for the sex.
